Some of us are reading her post and saying based on the lack of supportive facts (even with some tweaks for privacy reasons) and that it is full of subjective statements, we do not have reason to fully believe her objective experience. Some people are reading her post and inferring facts (likely from their own personal experiences as we are all prone to do) and saying she likely interpreted the situation reasonably as a rejection. I fall in the former camp. You fall in the latter. Such is the discussion. Just because I can in theory believe OP doesn’t mean I do or that I’m wrong for not thinking her take is accurate based on what has been shared. |
I agree with you there is 0 point in arguing because we won’t know the truth or if she is a troll. But I disagree that there is anything wrong with pointing out a lack of evidence to believe her. Why is saying there isn’t any evidence to support X assertion worse than saying well I’m going to assume evidence does support X. Either way we’re both just guessing and replying on our take. And I don’t think I have to take OP at face value to engage. Since when is believing everything posted online in an anonymous forum a requisite for sharing an opinion? |
+100 and THANK YOU. Whenever someone tries to just take the OP at face value and say "oh yeah, I've experienced that" or even "I can see why that was awkward" or whatever, a bunch of posters are like " We don't even know this happened! OP probably didn't even know them! They didn't feel awkward how would OP know that! OP just posted this to make fun of women who hang out with friends!" Like.... Okay, maybe. But we'll never know. So can we just talk about cliques or experiences feeling excluded from mom groups as though it is true, since otherwise there's no point to the thread? I often encounter threads or posters where I just think "no, this person is lying." But I don't engage in extensive back and forth over it because it's pointless. People can say whatever they want in here. If it doesn't pass the smell test, the best thing to do is ignore. Those of you who don't believe OP turned something that probably should have been a 3-4 page thread into a 50 page thread. For nothing. |
Because it derails the thread (while also boosting it in Recent Topics). The best thing to do if you find an OP unbelievable or a bad faith actor is to leave the thread. |
You realize every thread in here is "for nothing" right? We're not solving global issues here. |
I don’t get how an adult woman could care if a group of mere acquaintances didn’t invite her to something.
All the ladies at my yoga studio get together all of the time. I’ve only been invited once or twice and couldn’t make it. I’ve run into them out and about for lunch/drinks and jimmy crack corn I don’t care. What’s it to me? Is it a clique? Nope, it’s just a group of women who like to hang out with each other. They’re not doing it at my expense. Besides, I’m too busy to care. Now, if my friends got together and didn’t include me, that would hurt. But mommies on a bus stop? I really, really could not care less. Don’t you have other stuff to do, OP? |
But that discussion is pointless. "I believe her." "Well I don't." We can't prove it either way so that's the end of that. The reason you have to take OP at face value to have a productive conversation is that it's the only way to get to the underlying issue, which is more interesting than debating an unknowable fact like whether these women did in fact look awkward upon seeing OP. |
I have interesting conversations about topics that interest me on here all the time. Otherworldly SE I wouldn't be on here. |
^ otherwise I wouldnt |
You're very interested in whether OP was excluded from a group of acquaintances or not? |
DP What?! This is news to me! Why have I wasted so much time here if not to solve global issues? |
Did OP every give an update regarding the text? What did the other mom text back? Or was this all a troll? |
You can't have a productive conversation from a faulty premise. |
Where are we meeting today? It is almost 1pm... |
Can we pls not do a winery this time? |