Oh come on, "knows that the women have kids at her kids' school" is like the lowest baseline of a relationship imaginable! OP mentions the bus stop - this is a public school with literally hundreds of families. That's only a tiny step up from strangers. OP has not articulated a meaningful commonality between those women and her, e.g., we all live on the same few blocks, our daughters are on the same soccer teams, or maybe even all our kids are in the same kindergarten class. How can OP be excluded from a group she was never part of? And the fact that two of her friends were there is basically meaningless because anyone but a weirdo understands that even their close friends have lives outside their friendship and other friends in different circles too. |
Hyperbole: exaggerated statements or claims not meant to be taken literally. See, eg. "The PPs on here will twist anything she says to make the situation her fault and tell her how she deserves to be left out of every activity ever." |
Your kid is in first grade but her current classmates' parents hired a teacher for those now first graders four years ago. How many times did you all redshirt your kids? |
Sounds very dry. Do you have a pulse? |
Or she was asking for points of comparison so she can understand if she is the only one experiencing being excluded. But go on, continue to misunderstand and hate. That will surely be something your kids pick up from you. |
It's clearly you who misunderstands and hates. Look in the mirror. |
The kids were in a preschool pod -- I live in DC and most parents send their kids to our inbound school for PK if they can get a spot. That year was weird because everyone had to scramble to come up with a different plan. Thus, pods. |
I try to avoid the moms in my neighborhood. |
+1 |
Yes, agree. The suggestion you are a clique if you don’t invite someone to sit down and join your gathering is bizarre. Frankly, I would find that uncomfortable. There is a coffee shop I frequent in my neighborhood. I often see people I know there sitting down with others I know or am friends with. If I catch their eye, I smile and acknowledge them, but I would not walk up and interrupt them nor would I expect them to get up and invite me to join. |
This whole thread is wild. Who cares who’s getting together, when and how often? If the same 15 moms want to meet at a Winery every Friday, awesome. So what if you weren’t invited. There are lots of things you aren’t invited to, there are many things these women aren’t individually invited to. OP is an adult and I’m assuming has friends beyond the 15 women there. If she is wanting to socialize, she should text some friends and plan something. What these women did/do is their own prerogative |
Running into several school mom acquaintances during the day, while on a work event planning meeting, is not “being excluded” |
It might be and it might not. It really depends on the circumstances. The real problem on this thread is that people on both sides are making assumptions about OPs situation that may or may not be true and then laying down a firm edict like yours above that allows for no other possibility. My guess is that most moms on this thread are not horrible people who purposefully exclude in real life. And many of us have been on both sides of this scenario. But for some reason on this thread, people are coming down hard and being quite belligerent. it's bizarre really. |
OMG do you guys read what you are writing before you hit send? |
OMG yes quit trying to shame people for doing what you're doing. It's ridiculous. |