Nonsense. That isn’t how it works. The level of money it takes to run a Catholic parish is such that if one was in poor enough condition that the pastor might even dream of accepting a bribe, the briber would need Rockefeller money. And they’re not independent. Don’t things were that bad financially the bishop would either front the money or close the place and transfer the priest. |
Well, the fiancé is. But the point in this case is that the fiancé is Catholic enough to meet the criteria. But he is not practicing and might say he's not Catholic. But if he was raised Catholic he's been baptized, had his Communion and is confirmed. As far as the Church is concerned, he's Catholic. |
I did this in 2018. Please use your noggin. A church that is well attended will not be able to accommodate a wedding versus an non-well attended church. |
Yeah I forgot that they take attendance when you go to church. |
As discussed above, the “special pass” is a “dispensation,” issued by the bishop, to waive an otherwise applicable procedural requirement. But they’re not automatic or available to cover every possible issue. |
Ugh Catholic wedding ceremonies are soooo long and boring. And almost always only offered at some weird time so that you have to have a gap between the ceremony and reception. My DH was raised catholic and isn’t religious, and I’m so glad he didn’t give into pressure to make that happen. We had our ceremony and reception at the same venue in an easy to get to location (metro/uber/parking) near DC with access to DCA. Guests told us how great our wedding was because once they arrived at the hotel they didn’t need a car. Even our rehearsal dinner and after party stuff was walkable.
If Catholicism were a big part of your lives then I get prioritizing that. But I can’t imagine giving up on the vibe of the wedding I wanted and inconveniencing all my guests just because my DH wanted to please mommy and daddy (are they paying for it or something)? Your DH should be planning a wedding around your (as in you 2) preferences. In laws can come and put on a happy face or not. |
Why would this couple need a "special pass" when people do this all the time? No lying required. |
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You “did” what in 2018? Bribed a priest to simulate an invalid wedding? The largest, best attended parishes manage to accommodate the matrimony of all their parishioners, as they are canonically obligated to do. A wedding takes what, 2 hours. They can do three or more a day if they have to. |
They are only "long and boring" if they have a full mass, you don't have to have the mass. Obviously it was important to the couple who invited you to their ceremony to have a mass. So much disinformation on this thread. Do you also say that all the Bar Mitzvahs you've attended are "long and boring" or any other religious ceremony? |
No I would have the wedding you want. They had their wedding now you have yours. |
He's putting his families feelings above yours.
Not a good start for a marriage. At all. |
Being “Catholic” and “Catholic in good standing properly disposed to celebrate the Sacrament of Matrimony” are not necessarily the same thing. The normal venue for a Catholic wedding is the residential parish of the Catholic party, or one of them. If the person is not familiar to the pastor, he will ask questions. |
Got married in a Catholic church in DC that I did not regularly attend to a non-Christian. That is what I did. Believe it or not they do give in on these things. |
I guess OP can marry herself then b/c the title is "Fiance wants a church wedding" and last I checked a wedding is between two people. The two people involved here do not agree. |