Who gets to decide what DD/DS call the step parent?

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should extend your ex a little bit of grace. Maybe it was a big surprise, triggered him, and he overreacted. I would be upset if my kid called someone else momma, I'd try not to react and care, but, sometimes we don't behave in optimal ways.

I would tell your daughter that she can call Poppa G, poppa g at your house, but that she should respect what her father wants in his house. I assume that he overreacts about a lot of things. Your kid will learn to be more careful with her words around him.

This is extremely disrespectful to say its ok, when Dad ask Mom to stop it.

Divorce means you can't control things like this anymore.

You are still equal parents and yes, you both make the decisions but something like this Dad should have been consulted and had final say.

No. Grandparents dont get to dictate what the kids call the other set of grandparents, only what they call them. You get to dictate what your children call YOU. Not anyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Actually, I do have control. You have no control over your kids because only pretend to be a parent.

You think it's a good parent to control every aspect of your childs language? Yikes. Good luck with parenting your 15 year old trying to control every aspect of their life LOL. Delulu.

It’s called parenting. You should try it.

As a stepparent, I’d never allow the kids to call me mom or dad. It’s my first name. As a parent to teens, yes, you can control these things. It’s parenting and taking to them about respect and how the other parent feels about it. And, with a teen consequences are so easy by taking the phone or electronics.

Who cares what you prefer? Obviously OPs DD and her SD have no problem with this arrangement and neither should dad. He is just an insecure assh0le whose ego is bruised and this is just going to push his daughter away.

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OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD gets married and wants to include Papa G in wedding activities. OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD has children and wants them to call him Grandpapa G.

You know what all those fits get you? Less time together. Less of a relationship. All the while Papa G is being kind, courteous and loving, DD is going to gravitate to him - not the insecure Ahole who yelled at her when his ego was damaged.

This child has a Dad. OP needs to stop trying to replace Dad with her husband to play happy family. Its disrespectful.

Is OP ok with another woman coming in and her daughter calling that woman MOM?

Respect and love are earned, not demanded. It’s easy to see why the dad is losing out here.

This is an active and involved Dad. You are creating drama where there is none and making up stories. You are why your kid are having issues as you create problems with your child's Dad unnecessarily. Truely sad. I feel sorry for your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Actually, I do have control. You have no control over your kids because only pretend to be a parent.

You think it's a good parent to control every aspect of your childs language? Yikes. Good luck with parenting your 15 year old trying to control every aspect of their life LOL. Delulu.

It’s called parenting. You should try it.

As a stepparent, I’d never allow the kids to call me mom or dad. It’s my first name. As a parent to teens, yes, you can control these things. It’s parenting and taking to them about respect and how the other parent feels about it. And, with a teen consequences are so easy by taking the phone or electronics.

Who cares what you prefer? Obviously OPs DD and her SD have no problem with this arrangement and neither should dad. He is just an insecure assh0le whose ego is bruised and this is just going to push his daughter away.

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OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD gets married and wants to include Papa G in wedding activities. OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD has children and wants them to call him Grandpapa G.

You know what all those fits get you? Less time together. Less of a relationship. All the while Papa G is being kind, courteous and loving, DD is going to gravitate to him - not the insecure Ahole who yelled at her when his ego was damaged.

This child has a Dad. OP needs to stop trying to replace Dad with her husband to play happy family. Its disrespectful.

Is OP ok with another woman coming in and her daughter calling that woman MOM?

Several of us already said this. Not sure what OPs specific feelings are, but not everyone is so easily triggered as you Mr Snowflake.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should extend your ex a little bit of grace. Maybe it was a big surprise, triggered him, and he overreacted. I would be upset if my kid called someone else momma, I'd try not to react and care, but, sometimes we don't behave in optimal ways.

I would tell your daughter that she can call Poppa G, poppa g at your house, but that she should respect what her father wants in his house. I assume that he overreacts about a lot of things. Your kid will learn to be more careful with her words around him.

This is extremely disrespectful to say its ok, when Dad ask Mom to stop it.

Divorce means you can't control things like this anymore.

You are still equal parents and yes, you both make the decisions but something like this Dad should have been consulted and had final say.

No. Grandparents dont get to dictate what the kids call the other set of grandparents, only what they call them. You get to dictate what your children call YOU. Not anyone else.

Yes, grandparents decide along with the parents. As co-parents you need to work together and respect each other for your kids sake. People like you are why there are so many kids that are casualties of divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Actually, I do have control. You have no control over your kids because only pretend to be a parent.

You think it's a good parent to control every aspect of your childs language? Yikes. Good luck with parenting your 15 year old trying to control every aspect of their life LOL. Delulu.

It’s called parenting. You should try it.

As a stepparent, I’d never allow the kids to call me mom or dad. It’s my first name. As a parent to teens, yes, you can control these things. It’s parenting and taking to them about respect and how the other parent feels about it. And, with a teen consequences are so easy by taking the phone or electronics.

So now DD gets to call SD something inoffensive. BUT, SD and DD get to look each other in the eye and have a silent conversation like this:

- it was really nice when I got to call you Papa G, too bad dad got into a hissy fit but this doesn't change how I feel
- yes kid, it was great when you called me that, too bad we can't anymore but it doesn't change how I feel

Bet it really stings you that you cannot control what your child thinks.

Wow, you are extremely inappropriate.

You say, Dad loves you very much and is very upset that you are calling stepdad Papa G. It would be better out of respect for your dad that you call G, but his first name.

Not hard to be appropriate.

"Honey, your dad is an extremely petty bratty man child who doesn't like you calling someone dear to you a certain name. Don't say it around him, or he may freak out and yell at you again. He has no control over his tiny animal brain or emotions. Dont have children with such a person yourself."

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should extend your ex a little bit of grace. Maybe it was a big surprise, triggered him, and he overreacted. I would be upset if my kid called someone else momma, I'd try not to react and care, but, sometimes we don't behave in optimal ways.

I would tell your daughter that she can call Poppa G, poppa g at your house, but that she should respect what her father wants in his house. I assume that he overreacts about a lot of things. Your kid will learn to be more careful with her words around him.

This is extremely disrespectful to say its ok, when Dad ask Mom to stop it.

Divorce means you can't control things like this anymore.

You are still equal parents and yes, you both make the decisions but something like this Dad should have been consulted and had final say.

No. Grandparents dont get to dictate what the kids call the other set of grandparents, only what they call them. You get to dictate what your children call YOU. Not anyone else.

Yes, grandparents decide along with the parents. As co-parents you need to work together and respect each other for your kids sake. People like you are why there are so many kids that are casualties of divorce.

I'd think it's the insecure egomaniacs like yourself that cause this actually. My children have two parents that are not divorced. Sorry yours have such a shitty home life.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Actually, I do have control. You have no control over your kids because only pretend to be a parent.

You think it's a good parent to control every aspect of your childs language? Yikes. Good luck with parenting your 15 year old trying to control every aspect of their life LOL. Delulu.

It’s called parenting. You should try it.

As a stepparent, I’d never allow the kids to call me mom or dad. It’s my first name. As a parent to teens, yes, you can control these things. It’s parenting and taking to them about respect and how the other parent feels about it. And, with a teen consequences are so easy by taking the phone or electronics.

Who cares what you prefer? Obviously OPs DD and her SD have no problem with this arrangement and neither should dad. He is just an insecure assh0le whose ego is bruised and this is just going to push his daughter away.

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OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD gets married and wants to include Papa G in wedding activities. OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD has children and wants them to call him Grandpapa G.

You know what all those fits get you? Less time together. Less of a relationship. All the while Papa G is being kind, courteous and loving, DD is going to gravitate to him - not the insecure Ahole who yelled at her when his ego was damaged.

This child has a Dad. OP needs to stop trying to replace Dad with her husband to play happy family. Its disrespectful.

Is OP ok with another woman coming in and her daughter calling that woman MOM?

Respect and love are earned, not demanded. It’s easy to see why the dad is losing out here.

This is an active and involved Dad. You are creating drama where there is none and making up stories. You are why your kid are having issues as you create problems with your child's Dad unnecessarily. Truely sad. I feel sorry for your kids.

OPs EX is the reason why there are issues. OPs ex has no say over what DD does, says or calls anyone when she's on her own time.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Actually, I do have control. You have no control over your kids because only pretend to be a parent.

You think it's a good parent to control every aspect of your childs language? Yikes. Good luck with parenting your 15 year old trying to control every aspect of their life LOL. Delulu.

It’s called parenting. You should try it.

As a stepparent, I’d never allow the kids to call me mom or dad. It’s my first name. As a parent to teens, yes, you can control these things. It’s parenting and taking to them about respect and how the other parent feels about it. And, with a teen consequences are so easy by taking the phone or electronics.

Who cares what you prefer? Obviously OPs DD and her SD have no problem with this arrangement and neither should dad. He is just an insecure assh0le whose ego is bruised and this is just going to push his daughter away.

Dad cares, and it's completely inappropriate. Life does not revolve just around Mom and her wishes. Dad is an equal parent. Mom needs to teach appropriate boundaries.

Dad can try to control his daughter's language when she is at his house. When she is at mom's he can respectfully F off. It's called divorce. What part of that don't you get? You don't get to control the people you divorced.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you should extend your ex a little bit of grace. Maybe it was a big surprise, triggered him, and he overreacted. I would be upset if my kid called someone else momma, I'd try not to react and care, but, sometimes we don't behave in optimal ways.

I would tell your daughter that she can call Poppa G, poppa g at your house, but that she should respect what her father wants in his house. I assume that he overreacts about a lot of things. Your kid will learn to be more careful with her words around him.

This is extremely disrespectful to say its ok, when Dad ask Mom to stop it.

Divorce means you can't control things like this anymore.

You are still equal parents and yes, you both make the decisions but something like this Dad should have been consulted and had final say.

No, you both make decision about medical care, what school DD goes to, what sport she plays (maybe) but you DO NOT control how DD talks when she is at mom's house. You are delusional.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Actually, I do have control. You have no control over your kids because only pretend to be a parent.

You think it's a good parent to control every aspect of your childs language? Yikes. Good luck with parenting your 15 year old trying to control every aspect of their life LOL. Delulu.

It’s called parenting. You should try it.

As a stepparent, I’d never allow the kids to call me mom or dad. It’s my first name. As a parent to teens, yes, you can control these things. It’s parenting and taking to them about respect and how the other parent feels about it. And, with a teen consequences are so easy by taking the phone or electronics.

Who cares what you prefer? Obviously OPs DD and her SD have no problem with this arrangement and neither should dad. He is just an insecure assh0le whose ego is bruised and this is just going to push his daughter away.

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OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD gets married and wants to include Papa G in wedding activities. OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD has children and wants them to call him Grandpapa G.

You know what all those fits get you? Less time together. Less of a relationship. All the while Papa G is being kind, courteous and loving, DD is going to gravitate to him - not the insecure Ahole who yelled at her when his ego was damaged.

This child has a Dad. OP needs to stop trying to replace Dad with her husband to play happy family. Its disrespectful.

Is OP ok with another woman coming in and her daughter calling that woman MOM?

My guess is that what you're most upset about is that OP and DD actually DO have a happy family. A better person would be happy for his child. But you are not a good person.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Actually, I do have control. You have no control over your kids because only pretend to be a parent.

You think it's a good parent to control every aspect of your childs language? Yikes. Good luck with parenting your 15 year old trying to control every aspect of their life LOL. Delulu.

It’s called parenting. You should try it.

As a stepparent, I’d never allow the kids to call me mom or dad. It’s my first name. As a parent to teens, yes, you can control these things. It’s parenting and taking to them about respect and how the other parent feels about it. And, with a teen consequences are so easy by taking the phone or electronics.

Who cares what you prefer? Obviously OPs DD and her SD have no problem with this arrangement and neither should dad. He is just an insecure assh0le whose ego is bruised and this is just going to push his daughter away.

+1
OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD gets married and wants to include Papa G in wedding activities. OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD has children and wants them to call him Grandpapa G.

You know what all those fits get you? Less time together. Less of a relationship. All the while Papa G is being kind, courteous and loving, DD is going to gravitate to him - not the insecure Ahole who yelled at her when his ego was damaged.

This child has a Dad. OP needs to stop trying to replace Dad with her husband to play happy family. Its disrespectful.

Is OP ok with another woman coming in and her daughter calling that woman MOM?

My guess is that what you're most upset about is that OP and DD actually DO have a happy family. A better person would be happy for his child. But you are not a good person.

I think you’re onto something

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Actually, I do have control. You have no control over your kids because only pretend to be a parent.

You think it's a good parent to control every aspect of your childs language? Yikes. Good luck with parenting your 15 year old trying to control every aspect of their life LOL. Delulu.

It’s called parenting. You should try it.

As a stepparent, I’d never allow the kids to call me mom or dad. It’s my first name. As a parent to teens, yes, you can control these things. It’s parenting and taking to them about respect and how the other parent feels about it. And, with a teen consequences are so easy by taking the phone or electronics.

Who cares what you prefer? Obviously OPs DD and her SD have no problem with this arrangement and neither should dad. He is just an insecure assh0le whose ego is bruised and this is just going to push his daughter away.

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OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD gets married and wants to include Papa G in wedding activities. OPs Ex is probably going to throw a hissy fit when DD has children and wants them to call him Grandpapa G.

You know what all those fits get you? Less time together. Less of a relationship. All the while Papa G is being kind, courteous and loving, DD is going to gravitate to him - not the insecure Ahole who yelled at her when his ego was damaged.

This child has a Dad. OP needs to stop trying to replace Dad with her husband to play happy family. Its disrespectful.

Is OP ok with another woman coming in and her daughter calling that woman MOM?

Respect and love are earned, not demanded. It’s easy to see why the dad is losing out here.

This is an active and involved Dad. You are creating drama where there is none and making up stories. You are why your kid are having issues as you create problems with your child's Dad unnecessarily. Truely sad. I feel sorry for your kids.

Bingo. The mom is the problem.

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I'm surprised that OP didn't nip this in the bud immediately when DD starting calling the stepdad Papa. That she didn't, says more about her frankly.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised that OP didn't nip this in the bud immediately when DD starting calling the stepdad Papa. That she didn't, says more about her frankly.

Maybe she is more mature than you and is actually happy that her daughter has a positive role model in her life. She married well her second time. Good for OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much drama. You need to stay out of it.

No, she needs to correct her child, tell her to call him by his first name and the title dad is reserved for her dad only. She caused this mess.

The daughter can choose to call her parental figures whatever she wants. This man has an influence on how she is raised. Ger over yourself.

No, she needs to be respectful to her Dad. He is not her Dad. This is the start of mom alienating dad from the child.

I think the dad is doing a fine job of alienating his teenage daughter without mom’s help. A decent father might have a heart to heart with her and find out why she calls her stepfather this and express how he feels about it in an honest and open way. A good father would hear his daughter out and have a conversation with his daughter instead of throwing a tantrum. She will never trust him and will pull away from him, and that’s all on him.

Agree. Bio dad sounds hugely insecure. He needs to reflect on why he feels that way. A mature parent would be grateful that their daughter had such a good relationship with the man she lives with half of the time.

He is not Bio Dad. He did not give up this kid for adoption. He is the Dad. It's NOT ok for Mom to replace Dad with her new husband. Mom needs to apologize and put a stop to it.

You repeating the same drivel is not going to make it any more true. No one replaced dad. He is still there. Dad can't change the fact that his daughter has another parental figure in her life that she respects and loves and the daughter decided to call papa. Because that's what their daughter feels he is to her.

At the cost of disrespecting the dad.

Who cares? He can be disrespected all he (you?) want, it doesnt change the fact that he has no control over what daughter calls him.

I call you idiot. You have no control over what I call you.

You're right! Just like you have no control over what your child calls their step parent. Get a grip, you are slipping out of reality.

Actually, I do have control. You have no control over your kids because only pretend to be a parent.

You think it's a good parent to control every aspect of your childs language? Yikes. Good luck with parenting your 15 year old trying to control every aspect of their life LOL. Delulu.

It’s called parenting. You should try it.

As a stepparent, I’d never allow the kids to call me mom or dad. It’s my first name. As a parent to teens, yes, you can control these things. It’s parenting and taking to them about respect and how the other parent feels about it. And, with a teen consequences are so easy by taking the phone or electronics.

So now DD gets to call SD something inoffensive. BUT, SD and DD get to look each other in the eye and have a silent conversation like this:

- it was really nice when I got to call you Papa G, too bad dad got into a hissy fit but this doesn't change how I feel
- yes kid, it was great when you called me that, too bad we can't anymore but it doesn't change how I feel

Bet it really stings you that you cannot control what your child thinks.

Wow, you are extremely inappropriate.

You say, Dad loves you very much and is very upset that you are calling stepdad Papa G. It would be better out of respect for your dad that you call G, but his first name.

Not hard to be appropriate.

You can say whatever you want. You cannot control what DD and SD think about this, even if they do as you ask. People's thoughts are their own.