Why do the surprise birth at home or side of the road always have no complications or C-section needs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a precipitous birth at home with nobody but my husband and a 911 operator for help. Speed definitely played a factor. My contractions went from 1 to 1000 in about 2 minutes. I didn’t even push - baby just came.

Baby’s size also mattered in my case. Based on my previous births, I learned that I make big babies and my body is not made to deliver them vaginally. This baby was early and therefore smaller. She shot out of me. EMTs arrived maybe 10 minutes after she did. She was not well and spent a long time in the NICU. (She’s now a thriving, healthy 8-year-old. All is well!)

For some reason I want more details about these crazy births. Like did you take your underwear off or was it such a surprise you were still dressed? Where in your house were you? How was your husband reacting?

I know someone this happened too she delivered in a powder room with just her husband. He said it was like a crime scene. I think you’d have to take off your underwear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a precipitous birth at home with nobody but my husband and a 911 operator for help. Speed definitely played a factor. My contractions went from 1 to 1000 in about 2 minutes. I didn’t even push - baby just came.

Baby’s size also mattered in my case. Based on my previous births, I learned that I make big babies and my body is not made to deliver them vaginally. This baby was early and therefore smaller. She shot out of me. EMTs arrived maybe 10 minutes after she did. She was not well and spent a long time in the NICU. (She’s now a thriving, healthy 8-year-old. All is well!)

For some reason I want more details about these crazy births. Like did you take your underwear off or was it such a surprise you were still dressed? Where in your house were you? How was your husband reacting?

Oh my gosh! I'll tell you everything (after removing personal details)! It's my favorite story! It actually kills at dinner parties.

It was early morning. I had very mild and short contractions all night but I slept well so didn't think much of them. I called my doctor when I woke up and she said, eh - probably nothing but you can come into the hospital if you want. We waited a little longer and then decided to head to the hospital. We were dressed and my husband was calling his parents to come watch the kids while I got my purse and bag together. I was in the living room when the contractions skyrocketed in intensity and by the time I walked to the bedroom I could feel the pressure. I told my husband to hang up on his parents and call 911. I was wearing a maternity maxi skirt and yes, I had presence of mind to pulled off my underwear.

I gave birth on the bedroom floor. My husband really didn't understand what I was saying (I may not have been using actual words) so he was shocked as can be when there were suddenly three people in the room. The 911 operator asked him if he saw a head. He pulled up my skirt and said, no. A moment later they asked again so he looked again and yes, there was a head. The baby popped out and slid down my skirt to the floor. As I said, she was not doing well. She wasn't crying but was moving, breathing and making noises. He picked her up and really didn't know what to do then. The 911 operator kept my husband busy until the EMTs arrived by giving him little tasks to do (put the baby on mom's chest, wrap the baby in a clean towel, find something to tie off the cord). We laugh about that now about it but we think they just wanted to keep him from freaking out!

The EMTs showed up and took over. They asked my husband if he wanted to cut the cord. He declined, saying he had done enough! When we got to the hospital, I didn't have my ID or insurance card so they had trouble checking us in. They had to handwrite our wristbands before they separated us. We got our real wristbands when my husband showed up with my wallet. My doctor walked in and looked at me like, "WHAT THE HECK HAPPENED???" What the heck, indeed! Based on the timing of the phone calls that morning, the time from me calmly getting my hospital bag out of the closet to me delivering the baby was 24 minutes.

The next day my husband went out to buy a new rug for our bedroom floor. I was also surprised a few weeks later when we got the bill from the ambulance. They charged my 20 minute old baby who I held in my arms as a whole separate patient! It makes sense, but I was super annoyed by that for some reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a precipitous birth at home with nobody but my husband and a 911 operator for help. Speed definitely played a factor. My contractions went from 1 to 1000 in about 2 minutes. I didn’t even push - baby just came.

Baby’s size also mattered in my case. Based on my previous births, I learned that I make big babies and my body is not made to deliver them vaginally. This baby was early and therefore smaller. She shot out of me. EMTs arrived maybe 10 minutes after she did. She was not well and spent a long time in the NICU. (She’s now a thriving, healthy 8-year-old. All is well!)

This sounds so traumatic. Glad
She’s ok now. Hope you are too.

Thank you! It was traumatic, but we are all doing ok now - physically and emotionally. I felt some PTSD around her birthday the first couple of years, but that went away as she got older and her birthdays now are just joyful and fun. She does love hearing her birth story though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:CNM here- generally speaking fast labors are uncomplicated ones. Of course there can be exceptions but that’s generalisation that tends to bear out

Yep. Car delivery here, mid-morning. Slipped off my sweatpants and underwear, one leg on the dash board, one on my spouses shoulder outside the car door (he had pulled over), and out the baby came. Slid baby under my sweatshirt and we kept going. Baby was fine, I tore a little, and we were all home by dinner time. She's got one more year of college left

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a precipitous birth at home with nobody but my husband and a 911 operator for help. Speed definitely played a factor. My contractions went from 1 to 1000 in about 2 minutes. I didn’t even push - baby just came.

Baby’s size also mattered in my case. Based on my previous births, I learned that I make big babies and my body is not made to deliver them vaginally. This baby was early and therefore smaller. She shot out of me. EMTs arrived maybe 10 minutes after she did. She was not well and spent a long time in the NICU. (She’s now a thriving, healthy 8-year-old. All is well!)

For some reason I want more details about these crazy births. Like did you take your underwear off or was it such a surprise you were still dressed? Where in your house were you? How was your husband reacting?

Oh my gosh! I'll tell you everything (after removing personal details)! It's my favorite story! It actually kills at dinner parties.

It was early morning. I had very mild and short contractions all night but I slept well so didn't think much of them. I called my doctor when I woke up and she said, eh - probably nothing but you can come into the hospital if you want. We waited a little longer and then decided to head to the hospital. We were dressed and my husband was calling his parents to come watch the kids while I got my purse and bag together. I was in the living room when the contractions skyrocketed in intensity and by the time I walked to the bedroom I could feel the pressure. I told my husband to hang up on his parents and call 911. I was wearing a maternity maxi skirt and yes, I had presence of mind to pulled off my underwear.

I gave birth on the bedroom floor. My husband really didn't understand what I was saying (I may not have been using actual words) so he was shocked as can be when there were suddenly three people in the room. The 911 operator asked him if he saw a head. He pulled up my skirt and said, no. A moment later they asked again so he looked again and yes, there was a head. The baby popped out and slid down my skirt to the floor. As I said, she was not doing well. She wasn't crying but was moving, breathing and making noises. He picked her up and really didn't know what to do then. The 911 operator kept my husband busy until the EMTs arrived by giving him little tasks to do (put the baby on mom's chest, wrap the baby in a clean towel, find something to tie off the cord). We laugh about that now about it but we think they just wanted to keep him from freaking out!

The EMTs showed up and took over. They asked my husband if he wanted to cut the cord. He declined, saying he had done enough! When we got to the hospital, I didn't have my ID or insurance card so they had trouble checking us in. They had to handwrite our wristbands before they separated us. We got our real wristbands when my husband showed up with my wallet. My doctor walked in and looked at me like, "WHAT THE HECK HAPPENED???" What the heck, indeed! Based on the timing of the phone calls that morning, the time from me calmly getting my hospital bag out of the closet to me delivering the baby was 24 minutes.

The next day my husband went out to buy a new rug for our bedroom floor. I was also surprised a few weeks later when we got the bill from the ambulance. They charged my 20 minute old baby who I held in my arms as a whole separate patient! It makes sense, but I was super annoyed by that for some reason.

I think the lesson is, if you're in labor, go to the hospital. Especially if it's not your first.

[Anonymous]

Work in a hospital. There are definitely bad outcomes in these scenarios. At least where I live, they don't get attention because it isn't a "feel good" story. No one wants to hear about the cop who helped deliver a baby on the side of the road and it didn't end well. And thank God those don't get attention. I can't imagine how many comments there would be on those stories blaming the mom for waiting too long to go to the hospital.

[Anonymous]

I'm the poster whose mom had a placental abruption. No one wants to hear the story of the kid who ran next door screaming because mom was suddenly covered in blood.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t make it to the hospital by much, to deliver my twins- 1st pregnancy too. Water broke, left for hospital within 15min, 9cm dilated when checked in triage- rushed me to the OR to deliver (just in case- because twins) and baby A born about 10min later. Baby B born quickly after. Early but not that early (36wks..5.5lbs & almost 6 lbs), no nicu everything went great.

In my case there is a family history of it, sort of. Similar labors for my mom x3 but I didn’t really expect it to be the same for me. My sister does not have kids yet (soon she hopes) and I have warned her….

My last pregnancy with kid #3 ended up being a c/s (breech). Go figure!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sections happen sooner to avoid these scenarios

Wrong. Many doctors say you need an emergency section when you really don’t since they don’t feel like wasting their whole day waiting for you. If you had an epidural for your section, it wasn’t an emergency. If you have precipitous labor, you don’t need a section.

If your water broke, not delivering within 24 hours raises your risk of infection. It's not merely about not wanting to wait for you.

[Anonymous]

2 home water births for me. No hospital craziness. Hoping for our 3rd year.

[Anonymous]

I had a spontaneous (90 minute) labor for my second, at home. It wasn't on the side of the road only because we didn't have time to try to go anywhere. The doctor said she worries a lot less about the babies who come out fast and easily -- the babies that get stuck are much more likely to have complications.

[Anonymous]

1. Baby in car doesn’t come out bc is stuck so they get to the hospital and get a c section and there is no baby in car story

2. They do have awful issues sometimes and that’s why having a baby at home is selfish and a stupid gamble to take with a human who has no say

[Anonymous]

Home births are such hubris I hate them. A million stories like this. Don’t be this person

https://www.vogue.com/article/lake-bell-home-birth-complications

[Anonymous]

My first was breech but we didn’t know until I was pushing! Second super fast and did it naturally no c section. My contractions aren’t spread out like they said it would be. The only reason they think my first was premie was because of a short cervix. I think for some women it just happens faster and maybe something with our cervix size?