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[Anonymous]

What’s your definition of rich, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Chocolate and coffee, I want them rich. I’m with someone who makes more money than me but is in debt and doesn’t seem to be very smart with finances. Everything else is great. We are in our 40s and because the finance piece is importantly to me I think I need to leave. Would you marry someone if everything was perfect minus them being in debt?

You need therapy.

[Anonymous]

Rich isn't important but debt free is. If one is in their 40's, have debt and divorce history, get a forensic accountant to evaluate their liabilities and assets. You don't want to marry their financial problems.

[Anonymous]

Women or men should build their own wealth to support whatever lifestyle they want. That being said, marrying a financial wreck is going to eventually drown the marriage and possibly your finances as well.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the type of debt. I agree all debt is bad because you own someone money. However, if someone is in CC debt because of purely consumer purchases and not being able to manage their money or living above their means, that is different than debt from going through a divorce in my mind. Both are bad but one of them I can work with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Chocolate and coffee, I want them rich. I’m with someone who makes more money than me but is in debt and doesn’t seem to be very smart with finances. Everything else is great. We are in our 40s and because the finance piece is importantly to me I think I need to leave. Would you marry someone if everything was perfect minus them being in debt?

Marry them? No. Marriage = becoming a financial unit.

"Hang out" with them? Yes.

This is excellent advice for men as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Chocolate and coffee, I want them rich. I’m with someone who makes more money than me but is in debt and doesn’t seem to be very smart with finances. Everything else is great. We are in our 40s and because the finance piece is importantly to me I think I need to leave. Would you marry someone if everything was perfect minus them being in debt?

You need therapy.

Don't we all?!

[Anonymous]

I had a new hvac system installed and qualified for a 2 year term 0% loan from my credit card company with 0 in fees for the entire term because it was a promotion.

Someone explain to me there’s no good debt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it depends on the type of debt. I agree all debt is bad because you own someone money. However, if someone is in CC debt because of purely consumer purchases and not being able to manage their money or living above their means, that is different than debt from going through a divorce in my mind. Both are bad but one of them I can work with.

What do you mean by debt from a divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The debt is a combination from his divorce a couple years ago and a little is consumer debt.

Then the smart thing for him to do is to work on paying off his debt, and never getting married again.

[Anonymous]

There is such a thing as "good" debt... it depends on one's income level, tax bracket, and investment portfolio/endeavors.

I don't think debt due to divorce is a deal breaker. But I don't prioritize a man's income as #1 thing on my list. I certainly don't want a deadbeat or scrub, but other aspects such as being thoughtful, romantic, good lover etc are more important to me.

[Anonymous]

People who consider debt to be a moral failing have a mental illness.

[Anonymous]

Yikes you just realized this in your 40s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s your definition of rich, OP?

In today’s economy, not living paycheck to paycheck would be great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it depends on the type of debt. I agree all debt is bad because you own someone money. However, if someone is in CC debt because of purely consumer purchases and not being able to manage their money or living above their means, that is different than debt from going through a divorce in my mind. Both are bad but one of them I can work with.

What do you mean by debt from a divorce?

Attorney fees.