Which type of explicit content is least bad?

[Anonymous]

Elementary school kids should understand life and death and its relation to food. On the other hand, elementary school kids don't have the emotional maturity to put sex scenes in the right context.

Here's a thought experiment for OP: would you rather your DD8's adult male teacher tell her the story of the first deer he shot, or the story of how he lost his virginity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have any first hand knowledge of what kids in Europe are exposed to? Because you are correlating nudity with sex, and that's both very American and very incorrect from the "European" perspective. There is much more nudity in SOME of Europe, yes, but nowhere in Europe is it a social norm to expose children to explicit sexually themed content. Fix your faulty premise and put away the inappropriate sexual content before your ex takes you to court for grooming.

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[Anonymous]

On the off chance that OP isn't a troll...

OP, give us some examples of what books and movie scenes you're talking about. Normalizing sexual behavior in young children isn't just inappropriate, it's dangerous. It makes them more vulnerable to sexual abuse when they have knowledge beyond what is developmentally appropriate. The statute of David is one thing, graphic depictions of sex are another. There are MANY age appropriate books for children on nudity and sexuality that you could use to teach your children (It's So Amazing, the American Girl books, etc.). Random sex scenes in movies are not teaching tools, they're harmful and dangerous.

Separate your feelings about hunting and eating animals from your approach to sexuality "education." They are not related and you are wrong whether or not he is also.

[Anonymous]

But is he asking to take them hunting? You are actually exposing them. Frankly you both sound like you need to grow up and put your kids first for a few years and give your ‘hobbies’ a rest. They’ll be plenty of empty nest time to read fifty shades of gray and shoot Bambi.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have any first hand knowledge of what kids in Europe are exposed to? Because you are correlating nudity with sex, and that's both very American and very incorrect from the "European" perspective. There is much more nudity in SOME of Europe, yes, but nowhere in Europe is it a social norm to expose children to explicit sexually themed content. Fix your faulty premise and put away the inappropriate sexual content before your ex takes you to court for grooming.

I went to graduate school in Europe. They're nowhere near as hysterical as people are here. I know I shouldn't be surprised by the response here because Americans are inherently more violent. Just figured DC area was far more enlightened than the rest of the country.

My kids aren't actively paying attention to sex scenes, which are fleeting compared to a bunch of waterfowl being prepared and stored in the deep freezer. I'm a cultural and arts writer. I work from home. My career is culture which includes sexual culture. It's not like I'm running an escort service out of my home.

[Anonymous]

How did you and your husband ever get together and stay together long enough to have children?

I nominate Nick Offerman as a cultural guide to both of you. He has an appreciation for hunting, woodworking, feminism and sex. These things do not need to be in opposition to each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the off chance that OP isn't a troll...

OP, give us some examples of what books and movie scenes you're talking about. Normalizing sexual behavior in young children isn't just inappropriate, it's dangerous. It makes them more vulnerable to sexual abuse when they have knowledge beyond what is developmentally appropriate. The statute of David is one thing, graphic depictions of sex are another. There are MANY age appropriate books for children on nudity and sexuality that you could use to teach your children (It's So Amazing, the American Girl books, etc.). Random sex scenes in movies are not teaching tools, they're harmful and dangerous.

Separate your feelings about hunting and eating animals from your approach to sexuality "education." They are not related and you are wrong whether or not he is also.

Yes, actually - here are 3 books my STBXH say are "abusive" and shouldn't be on the shelves of the family room:
Polaroid, Mapplethorpe
A woman's right to pleasure
Women and kink
^others follow the same theme, heavy art and a nod to female sexual empowerment.

Movies are along the lines of French films, series like the L word, bridgerton...

All of which fuel my content for my job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did you and your husband ever get together and stay together long enough to have children?

I nominate Nick Offerman as a cultural guide to both of you. He has an appreciation for hunting, woodworking, feminism and sex. These things do not need to be in opposition to each other.

It's terribly old fashioned but accidental pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the off chance that OP isn't a troll...

OP, give us some examples of what books and movie scenes you're talking about. Normalizing sexual behavior in young children isn't just inappropriate, it's dangerous. It makes them more vulnerable to sexual abuse when they have knowledge beyond what is developmentally appropriate. The statute of David is one thing, graphic depictions of sex are another. There are MANY age appropriate books for children on nudity and sexuality that you could use to teach your children (It's So Amazing, the American Girl books, etc.). Random sex scenes in movies are not teaching tools, they're harmful and dangerous.

Separate your feelings about hunting and eating animals from your approach to sexuality "education." They are not related and you are wrong whether or not he is also.

Yes, actually - here are 3 books my STBXH say are "abusive" and shouldn't be on the shelves of the family room:
Polaroid, Mapplethorpe
A woman's right to pleasure
Women and kink
^others follow the same theme, heavy art and a nod to female sexual empowerment.

Movies are along the lines of French films, series like the L word, bridgerton...

All of which fuel my content for my job.

Take them out of the living room as a gesture of good will. Watch your series after kids are in bed or when they’re at school. Done. See if that moves the needle in terms of being able to gain good will from him. These are not hills to die on. Moving where you view these things isn’t tantamount to admitting these things are bad. You’d just be saying “fine - I’ll move them out of the living room.”

How old are your kids anyways? Mine would be speaking up and letting their voice be heard by age 6. Surely your child has preferences too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the off chance that OP isn't a troll...

OP, give us some examples of what books and movie scenes you're talking about. Normalizing sexual behavior in young children isn't just inappropriate, it's dangerous. It makes them more vulnerable to sexual abuse when they have knowledge beyond what is developmentally appropriate. The statute of David is one thing, graphic depictions of sex are another. There are MANY age appropriate books for children on nudity and sexuality that you could use to teach your children (It's So Amazing, the American Girl books, etc.). Random sex scenes in movies are not teaching tools, they're harmful and dangerous.

Separate your feelings about hunting and eating animals from your approach to sexuality "education." They are not related and you are wrong whether or not he is also.

Yes, actually - here are 3 books my STBXH say are "abusive" and shouldn't be on the shelves of the family room:
Polaroid, Mapplethorpe
A woman's right to pleasure
Women and kink
^others follow the same theme, heavy art and a nod to female sexual empowerment.

Movies are along the lines of French films, series like the L word, bridgerton...

All of which fuel my content for my job.

1) you are engaged in a high conflict divorce from someone who sounds like he has really different values to you. That is making both of you double down. That's not productive. Denying that it's happening is even less productive.

2) Stop doubling down on these things "being your job" and that's why it's okay. It's okay for you to have books like that on your bookshelves because you are interested in them and books are stored on bookshelves. Making this about your job is accepting his premise that they're unacceptable and need a justification. Stop doing that. He doesn't have to be right.

3) If you are watching Bridgerton with your children, stop doing that. Stop putting them in the middle. You can watch Bridgerton or whatever. Have as many L Word box sets as you want. But if you are actually experiencing these things WITH your kids, stop doing that, for at least the duration of your divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you and your husband ever get together and stay together long enough to have children?

I nominate Nick Offerman as a cultural guide to both of you. He has an appreciation for hunting, woodworking, feminism and sex. These things do not need to be in opposition to each other.

It's terribly old fashioned but accidental pregnancy.

THREE TIMES?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the off chance that OP isn't a troll...

OP, give us some examples of what books and movie scenes you're talking about. Normalizing sexual behavior in young children isn't just inappropriate, it's dangerous. It makes them more vulnerable to sexual abuse when they have knowledge beyond what is developmentally appropriate. The statute of David is one thing, graphic depictions of sex are another. There are MANY age appropriate books for children on nudity and sexuality that you could use to teach your children (It's So Amazing, the American Girl books, etc.). Random sex scenes in movies are not teaching tools, they're harmful and dangerous.

Separate your feelings about hunting and eating animals from your approach to sexuality "education." They are not related and you are wrong whether or not he is also.

Yes, actually - here are 3 books my STBXH say are "abusive" and shouldn't be on the shelves of the family room:
Polaroid, Mapplethorpe
A woman's right to pleasure
Women and kink
^others follow the same theme, heavy art and a nod to female sexual empowerment.

Movies are along the lines of French films, series like the L word, bridgerton...

All of which fuel my content for my job.

Sex 👏🏻 Is 👏🏻 For 👏🏻 Adults 👏🏻

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you and your husband ever get together and stay together long enough to have children?

I nominate Nick Offerman as a cultural guide to both of you. He has an appreciation for hunting, woodworking, feminism and sex. These things do not need to be in opposition to each other.

It's terribly old fashioned but accidental pregnancy.

THREE TIMES?

Just the first time. The second two were more of wanting more children and tolerance of the marital status quo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the off chance that OP isn't a troll...

OP, give us some examples of what books and movie scenes you're talking about. Normalizing sexual behavior in young children isn't just inappropriate, it's dangerous. It makes them more vulnerable to sexual abuse when they have knowledge beyond what is developmentally appropriate. The statute of David is one thing, graphic depictions of sex are another. There are MANY age appropriate books for children on nudity and sexuality that you could use to teach your children (It's So Amazing, the American Girl books, etc.). Random sex scenes in movies are not teaching tools, they're harmful and dangerous.

Separate your feelings about hunting and eating animals from your approach to sexuality "education." They are not related and you are wrong whether or not he is also.

Yes, actually - here are 3 books my STBXH say are "abusive" and shouldn't be on the shelves of the family room:
Polaroid, Mapplethorpe
A woman's right to pleasure
Women and kink
^others follow the same theme, heavy art and a nod to female sexual empowerment.

Movies are along the lines of French films, series like the L word, bridgerton...

All of which fuel my content for my job.

Sex 👏🏻 Is 👏🏻 For 👏🏻 Adults 👏🏻

Reading books is not having sex, good grief.

[Anonymous]

I happen to believe that deer lived a better life than the chicken or pork you bought at the grocery store. It lived wild and free and was shot quickly. It's being eaten. Stop comparing rifles or shotguns to handguns.